How to use your past failure to push you forward in 2018

We are born afraid of failing. Always looking, checking and double checking to make sure we don't fail. But the reality is that no matter what you do, at one time, at least,you will fail. The important thing is to know how to react when it happens, to be able to overcome the challenges and use them to our advantage.

"There's a tremendous bias against taking risks. Everyone is trying to optimize their ass-covering," said Elon Musk. And he is right, isn't he? So get up, dust off and start thinking pro-actively. Each time you fall it's time to get up and try again.

According to Grant Cardone for cnbc.com, the problem is that most people don't know what to do when they fail. "The truly successful rely on their ability to act, despite facing obstacles and difficulties. When things aren't going well, it's easy to "take it easy" and to not be "hard on yourself," like conventional wisdom tells you to do. To recover from failure, you have to act now and then keep going with the knowledge that enough actions taken will turn into the future you want," wrote Cardone.

Here are some ideas of how you can cope with failure and move past it:

Understand that failure is just part of the process, accept it and process it

Like everything that happens, both at a personal and professional level, one must understand what happened, accept the situation, process it and then move on. Putting down the failure in writing is a good start, as well as steps you could have taken differently, positive things you learned from it, and what you'll do if faced with it again. "Ask yourself what you have to do to become the name people think of for your area of expertise. This exercise will help you create the list of targets that will make your stretch goals a reality. Just because something didn't work in the past doesn't mean you should minimize your goals. It means that your actions were either wrong or not at massive, 10X levels," added Grant Cardone.

Talk with somebody and let the frustration fly

Being to involved in the process and therefore too emotional about it can make you not see the details and the big picture. An expert eye as well as a couple of friends that work in different fields than you can help you get a different, fresh and good perspective on things. They might point out to you some aspects that, all of a sudden, seem very obvious and "in your face".

Moreover, "once you have have taken some time to walk it off and clear your head, you can then begin accepting what happened. The initial emotional rush will eventually dissipate and you can then slowly return your focus back to the issue at hand," pointed out Graham Young for fastcompany.com.

Innovate

"Working in business development, I am only as good as my latest plan to make money. Not every plan worked. This forced me to come up with more ideas at a faster pace. If one idea didn’t work, I was on to the next one. I had to shelve many ideas that I loved, but learning to “kill my darlings” only allowed me to birth new plans in a less precious way. Often, using what we’d learned from one thing failing makes the next iteration better and more successful," wrote Victoria Cairl for entrepreneur.com.

An honest feedback and perspective are the best

You shouldn't be afraid of receiving the feedback you don't want. Brutal honesty from your friends and experts, but also your own clear view, will go a long way. Don't try and fix something that is unfixable or is not producing the right results. Letting it go and focusing on another idea or project, might just be the key. It would be much better for you to spend your time and dedication to an idea that shows real perspective and you know it can go further, rather than wasting energy on something that has no real value.

Don't give up and be positive

Focusing on the negative will get you nowhere, while a positive thinking might do the trick. Moreover, don't take a failure as a final try to your own business endeavor. Many of the successful people today have tries several businesses and ideas before hitting it big. "Generally, the more positive your attitude and outlook, the more that will permeate the rest of your actions and thoughts, creating a better experience going forward," concluded inc.com.